Coming of Age:
Adolescence - 13th Birthday
Becoming a teenager
Start of the journey to adulthood
First year of High School
Finding their identity
Coming of Age - 18th Birthday
Legal tranistion to adulthood
Allowed to drink alcohol
Eligible to vote
Right to Marry
Can apply for a credit card
Own power of Attorney
Right to make own legal choices
Go to Jail
Can buy a house
End of High School
Starting employment or University
Can go Bankrupt
At 18 you have the right to die for your your country!
21st Birthday Celebration
Previously 21 was the legal age for adulthood in Australia. It still is in the US and throughout Europe. However when Australia deceased the age of enlistment from 21 to 18 and decided to send our sons to War, adulthood was changed in parliament as it was unfair to allow them to die for us without the priviledge of enjoying a beer or a smoke with the boys. It is acceptable to celebrate one or both as a coming of age.
This is my angel Brooke.......
Brooke needed to buy a full copy of her Birth Certificate to get her drivers licenece. As it turns out the Department of Birth Deaths and Marriages made a typo when registering Brookes birth. Brooke prefers the incorrect spelling of BROOK  (no E).  I prefer the 'E' to stay.
On Brookes 18th Birthday which is on 19th September, 2010 Brooke has the right to change her name and I have no say in the matter.
Brooke has chosen to have a formal ceremony for her 18th Birthday. In her teenage years, for one reason or another, we lost contact with our extended family and Brook sees this as an important time to reconnect. She wants everyone to understand the person she has become, the choices she has made for herself and what her hopes and plans are for the future. Brooke sees the importance of ceremony to personalise the event, rather than just focussing on the alcohol and the party. 'I'M SO PROUD OF YOU BROOK!'
Ceremony within a Ceremony
Wishes and Wisdom
Candle Lighting
Opening a Time Capsule
Life Story so far
Fire Ceremony
Pledge of Responsibility
Photo Slide Show
Story telling by Significant People
Tunnel of Transition
Box of Symbols
Rose Ceremony
Video Messages from Distant Friends and those who could not attend.
Here is the Reading I have chosen for Brookies 18th
From "The Heroine in Every Woman"
Jean Bollen
"There is a potential heroine in every woman. She is the leading lady in her own life story, on a journey that begins at her birth and continues throughout her lifetime. As she travels on her particular path, she will undoubtedly encounter suffering; feel loneliness, vulnerability, uncertainty and know limitations. She may also find meaning, develop character, experience love and grace and learn wisdom.
To be a heroine on her own heroic journey, a woman must begin with the attitude that her choices so matter. In this process of living from this premise, something happens; a woman becomes a choicemaker, a heroine who shapes who she will become. She either grows with her actions or is diminished by what she does not do. Her future depends on the attitude she holds".